Estudos mostram que, quanto mais um homem é capaz de fazer uma mulher rir,
mais atraente ela o achará. Isto porque, as habilidades de fazer os outros riem, é percebido como um traço
dominante, enquanto os machos preferem fêmeas subordinadas.
Robert Provine found that in courtship, it's the women who do most of the laughing and smiling,
not men. Laughing in these contexts is used as a way of determining how successfully a couple is likely
to bond in a relationship. Simply put, the more he can make her laugh, the more attractive she will find
him. This is because the ability to make others laugh is perceived as a dominant trait and women prefer
dominant males, while males prefer subordinate females.
Video 1: Men can make girls laughing by using a bit of creativity. Appropriate music and funny
objects dealing with incongruence and inferiority help a lot.
Provine also round that a subordinate person will
laugh to appease a superior person and the superior person will make subordinates laugh - but without
laughing himself — as a way of maintaining his superiority.
Studies show that women laugh at men they're attracted to, and men are attracted to
women who laugh at them.
This explains why having a sense of humour is near the top of women's priority list of what they look
for in a man. When a woman says 'He's such a funny guy - we spent the whole night laughing together'
she usually means that she spent the night laughing and he spent the night making her laugh.
From a man's perspective, saying that a woman has a good sense of humour doesn't mean
she tells jokes;
it means she laughs at his jokes.
Fig 1: How a woman sees a man: the picture on the left is how a woman perceives
the man who doesn't make her laugh.
The right hand picture is how she sees him when he does make her laugh
On a deeper level, men seem to understand the attraction value of being humorous and spend much of their
time with other men competing to tell the best joke to enhance their own status. Many men also become annoyed
when one man dominates the joke-telling, especially when women are present and are also laughing.
Men are likely to think the joke-teller is not only a jerk but he isn't particularly funny either,
come to think of it - despite the fact he has all the women in fits of laughter. The point for men to
understand is that humorous men look more attractive to most women. Fortunately, you can learn to be
Piece adapted from
THE MAGIC OF SMILES AND LAUGHTER